#4 Your partner should make you a better person, however you want to define that term. If you notice your partner is not invested in your education, career or life they simply do not care enough. You should be with someone that wants you to be the best version of yourself. In no way am I saying they need to fully invested in every step you take, but they should try to stay abreast of your life and career goals. You never want to be with someone that views themselves as the sun and you as Pluto, a discontinued planet of little significance.