#1 You always want to go back to how things were. In this stage, many people make the mistake of trying to get back to the beginning. They think it’s just a phase and their partner will revert back to the person they met all that while ago. When you really think about it, with the passage of time you get to know people better, even if it’s not a continuation of their initial selves. When your partner shows you who they are with disrespect, anger and hurtfulness, believe them. What’s even worse is next.