7 Reliable Tips for Romance in Long Distance Relationships

Are you in a long distance relationship? Is your significant other overseas serving for their country? Are you dating somebody who lives halfway across the world? Or do you have a job that requires a lot of travel or maybe make it necessary for you to live in separate cities?


Whatever the case, long distance relationships are hard.  Keeping the romance alive while being away from your partner is one of the biggest challenges you’ll have to overcome, but you’re not alone. 3 million married couples in the US live apart and 25 to 50% college students are currently in long-distance relationships according to recent statistics. Read on for 7 tips to help you stay connected with your partner when you’re not in the same zip code.


1) ‘Good Morning’ and ‘Good Night’ texts

Never underestimate the power of a ‘Good morning’ text. It seems so simple and it is. Showing your partner you are thinking of them first thing in the morning and before you go to bed will make them feel at ease and loved. What better way to start your day off by knowing your partner is thinking of you? And when you send that message make sure to include something more like that shows you’re interested in their life. Maybe it’s something as simple as “Good luck in your meeting today” or even better “I hope you’re commute isn’t too bad. Here’s a podcast to help you pass the time.” Actually make the effort to send them something to listen to while they sit in traffic.

2) Video Chat

Now with smartphones, everyone can now call their significant other and video chat. Skype and Face time are just a few of the many platforms available. It’s next the best thing to actually being there together. So maybe plan a coffee video chat date. Set a time, maybe even send them a nice email inviting them on a video chat date. Grab a cup a coffee, put on a nice outfit, turn off the tv and catch up on life.

3) Voice Texts

In the hustle and bustle of our busy lives we can fall prey to only texting. It’s much more convenient than a phone call. By doing this you lose that connection of hearing your significant other’s voice. Next time you’re tempted to text, use your smartphone and send a voice message instead. Hearing your partners voice is more intimate than reading a text.

4) Share Videos and Pictures of your Day

Don’t overload them with every detail of your day but whenever you have something that evokes an emotion in you that you wish you could share, take a video or a photo and send it to them. Are you going for a run in a new city? Send them a photo of the landscape. Do you miss being able to be physically romantic with them? How about sending them a sexy photo? This goes for both; guys and girls! Yes, put on that sexy lingerie or take off that button up shirt and take a photo and send it to your partner when they least expect it. It will surely put a smile on their face and fill their love tank.

5) Surprise Packages

Whether it’s something cheeky like a jar filled with Hershey kisses (for whenever they need a kiss) or a care package with their favorite local coffee beans. Send them a surprise package that reminds them of you. A candle is another great option. If they travel a lot having a beautifully scented candle they can lite in their hotel room will brighten their day and make them feel cared for. Traveling a lot can be fun but it can also be draining so anything that makes staying in a different hotel room every night feel more homey will definitely make your partner feel appreciated and cared for.

6) See Each Other in Real Life

Have a plan for when you’ll see each other next. Even if the date might change, knowing that there is an end in sight makes things bearable. It’s also helpful to agree on how long you’re okay with spending time away. Maybe you make a pact that no matter what you will meet in person once a month or that you don’t take work contract that leave you apart for longer than two months at a time. However you do it, just make sure that you have a date to count down to.

7) Finally, Be Interested

Whatever the medium; email, text, phone calls. Ask questions and really listen to your partner. Ask them about not only their day, but their dreams, their fears, their favorite childhood memories. Take time to turn off all distractions and really communicate without multitasking other things. Listen and engage. Being in a long distance relationship can actually strengthen your bond. In one study done by the Journal of Communication it was found that people in long distance situations can actually form stronger bonds by having more constant and deeper communication that those who are not.

“Indeed, our culture, emphasizes being together physically and frequent face-to-face contact for close relationships, but  long-distance relationships clearly stand against all these values. People don’t have to be so pessimistic about long-distance romance,” said Jiang from the Journal of Communication. “The long-distance couples try harder than geographically close couples in communicating affection and intimacy, and their efforts do pay back.”

Using the time apart, you can actually build a stronger relationship for when you are together. It’s true what they say, distance does make the heart grow fonder.

Journal Reference:
1 L. Crystal Jiang, Jeffrey T. Hancock. Absence Makes the Communication Grow Fonder: Geographic Separation, Interpersonal Media, and Intimacy in Dating RelationshipsJournal of Communication, 2013; 63 (3): 556 DOI: 10.1111/jcom.12029


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